Is It Domestic Violence?

Domestic Violence is a pattern of assaultive and controlling behaviors, including physical, sexual and psychological attacks, that one intimate partner does to another. Domestic violence is a purposeful behavior directed at achieving compliance from or control over their partner.

Do They?
• Controls finances, daily activities, relationships with others, or any other aspects of your personal life
• Calls you names, verbally put you down, embarrasses you, yells, or threatens you
• Tells you that you’re a bad parent and threatens to take away or harm your children or your pets
• Acts like the abuse are no big deal, says it’s your fault or denies the abuse.
• Physically harms you in any manner.

More about domestic violence:

Anyone can be abusive and anyone can be the victim of abuse. It happens regardless of gender, age, sexual orientation, race or economic background. People abuse their partners because they believe they have the right to control their partner. It is a choice people make and it all goes back to power and control. It does not occur because of alcohol, drugs, stress, or because someone made them. Domestic violence takes a negative toll on the whole family and those around the individuals involved. Jobs are lost and health problems are also a concern due to domestic violence.

Domestic violence takes a huge financial toll. The cost of intimate partner violence is more than $5.8 billion every year, including $4.1 billion in direct health care expenses. (

Domestic Violence Facts:

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 On average, nearly 20 people per minute are physically abused by an intimate partner in the United States. During one year, this equates to more than 10 million women and men.
 1 in 3 women and 1 in 4 men have been victims of [some form of] physical violence by an intimate partner within their lifetime.
 1 in 4 women and 1 in 7 men have been victims of severe physical violence by an intimate partner in their lifetime.
 1 in 7 women and 1 in 18 men have been stalked by an intimate partner during their lifetime to the point in which they felt very fearful or believed that they or someone close to them would be harmed or killed.
 On a typical day, there are more than 20,000 phone calls placed to domestic violence hotlines nationwide.
 The presence of a gun in a domestic violence situation increases the risk of homicide by 500%.
 Intimate partner violence accounts for 15% of all violent crime.
 Women between the ages of 18-24 are most commonly abused by an intimate partner.
 19% of domestic violence involves a weapon.
 Domestic victimization is correlated with a higher rate of depression and suicidal behavior.
 Only 34% of people who are injured by intimate partners receive medical care for their injuries.

These are just some of the indicators of domestic violence. Please speak with an advocate about what is happening in your relationship. Contact Us