Domestic Violence

Domestic violence is abusive behavior including physical, emotional, financial, or sexual abuse in order to gain power and control over another person in a domestic relationship. This can include relationships between roommates, dating partners, married partners, and family members. It affects men, women, and children of all ages, races, ethnicities, religions, disabilities, sexual orientations, and socioeconomic statuses. Domestic violence does not discriminate. Remember, abuse does not have to be physical in order to be abuse. Emotional, psychological, and financial abuse, as well as pressure and coercion are abusive. Each type of abuse is serious and no one deserves to experience abuse of any kind. If you or someone you know is experiencing violence, do not hesitate to contact us. We are here to offer support.

Signs of Domestic Violence:

– Physical abuse, including hitting, slapping, biting, kicking, and pushing

– Tells you that you can never do anything right

– Shows extreme jealousy of your friends and time spent away

– Keeps you or discourages you from seeing friends or family members

– Insults, demeans or shames you with put-downs

– Controls family finances and/or takes your money or refuses to give you money for necessary expenses

– Looks at you or acts in ways that scare you

– Controls who you see, where you go, or what you do

– Prevents you from making your own decisions or makes you feel unable to make decisions

– Tells you that you are a bad parent or threatens to harm or take away your children

– Prevents you from working or attending school

– Destroys your property or threatens to hurt or kill your pets

– Intimidates you with guns, knives or other weapons

– Pressures you to have sex when you don’t want to or do things sexually you’re not comfortable with

– Pressures you to use drugs or alcohol

– Uses your children as a way to make you feel guilt or to relay messages

Power and control are present whenever there is violence. Abusive power and control are the methods through which someone gains and maintains power and control over someone else. The Power and Control Wheel shows behaviors that may occur in dating or domestic violence relationships. In all of our relationships, we can strive for positive behaviors and healthy relationships as shown in the Equality Wheel.